10th April 2012: My World Took 180° Turn

10th April 2012: The most amazing day of my life.......... It was so rich, so delighting, so pure, so touching and an out of the world experience that could make up a complete woman in me.

Recollecting the words by my loving dad and stories by my best-friend mom, I was back indulged in the little spluttering and bubbling going in inside me. Wow, it went and it went on, it would not stop, or may be, I also didn’t want it to stop. Still wondering, yes, a life is breathing inside me.

No more I have to imagine that someone is coming in my life, my very own, my inner self, my reflection and of course the certificate (as I love to call it) of my relationship of 10 years with the love of my life. After months of anticipation and nervousness, it was amazing to feel it for almost the whole day. Naughty darling just moved after every few words I wrote on my monotonous workstation (me, being a content writer). Suddenly, the new father sends an SMS making me realise that I am not the only contributor to its existence :P “How r u both of my babies?” He loves to call me baby too as he believes that I have still not grown..... because I still crave for unusual things like shouting unnecessarily, jumping on bed, fussing to eat and much more............

Waiting for the next screening when we will see its little fingers moving ( I don’t know, this is what my Dr. Says)

Top Communication Skills Needed in India

India is renowned for its diversity all over the globe. However, it has been always believed that the
intimacy and warmth carried by Indian is unsurpassed. With such an assortment of culture and
language, it is often wondered that how does communication take place in such places. In the recent
years, there has been a tremendous change in the way Indians communicate among themselves as
well as with visitors from all across the world.

Unfortunately, a considerably low percentage of professionals realise the actual level of
communication required to compete with those staying overseas consequently demanded because
of globalisation. Here are a few key skills required to take your communication skills on a level where
classic and contemporary worlds meet.

Confidence

Confidence or believing in oneself is one of the primary keys towards success. An effective
communication comes from a confident speech and trustworthy words. In a country like India, where
relationships are valued largely, it becomes really important to win confidence of others. If you are not
confident for yourself, why will others trust you? This is where your trust on yourself plays a significant
role.

Knowledge:

Before you start communicating on a particular note, it is very important to have a thorough
knowledge of the discussion you are about to own. Confidence is directly proportional to knowledge.
The more your have knowledge, the better will be your confidence level. Here in India, we have a
strong appetite for appreciation and applause. This is the reason that as your share your knowledge
with people around you, you get appreciated even if it is just in the form of a simple gesture.

Relationship Management:

True is the fact that a great depends on the relationships in India. Indians carry deep-rooted morals
and values. Dignity plays a very important role in maintain the relationships at the same time. Art of
relationship Management is a prominent factor that determines your success in India. Even if it is a
corporate cause, a polite and humble relationship can lead to the success of almost anything in India.

Optimism:

The fear of rejection and failure often doesn’t help in achieving goals. Your communication greatly
depends on the attitude you carry while dealing with people. It is true that Indian citizens have faced
a lot of ups and downs in their economy as well as society. This is the reason it is not easy for them
to accept things as they come in life. However, a person approaching with optimistic thoughts often
energizes and motivates them. Positive attitude in your communication not only helps in breaking the
ice easily but at the same time it leaves an everlasting impression on your clients and delegates or
anyone you are in terms with.

Appearance:

If it is the face-to-face communication, appearance of an individual is another significant factor. Your
presentation influences your discussions to a great extent. A smart and good-looking appearance will
add to your confidence and in turn lead to a better communication process.

All the above skills are sure to enhance the way you communicate with Indian people.

Wonder Days

I wonder whether I should take a step forward

Or wait till the final call comes through dad’s letter.

Lying amidst a big decision to make in life,

It has become tough to throw up for better.

Papa, oh papa, you have shown me the path,

Show this time too, cuddle this time too.

Answers will be so easy, for your child,

And so easy will be for me to accept the glue.

Yes, it is indeed not easy to travel so long

With hands clutched so strong.

Hard to accept still, I will be mom, I know

I don’t sound like an Indian woman who struggles lifelong.

But can’t take out the anxiety of ‘being’

‘To be’ or ‘not be’, ‘A MOM’

Don’t know what to do,

When I have still not forgotten my prom.

Anyone out there, who could convince me take the step,

Anyone who is keen

I am sure dad you would have, if you have been............ :( :(

Kaise Likhdun Kuchh Bhi

Maine jeevan mein andhkar dekha,

Kaise use ujala likhun?

Jisne khade khade kapkapi di

Kaise use sahara likhun?

Jise kabhi aankh bhar dekha nahi,

Kaise use deedar likhun?

Jab mila dukh mila,

Kaise use uphaar likhun?

Din mein hua judaai ka ehsaas,

Kaise use bahaar likhun?

Raat mein hua yadon ka aghaas

Kaise use tyohaar likhun?

Dhire dhire bikharne laga kajal

Kaise use main roop likhun?

Suraj ki roshni ko khyalon ne ghera

Kaise use main dhoop likhun?

Itna sab hoke bhi sabhi se hasi boli

Kaise jeevan ko takraar likhun?

Par jo hua uska kya

Kaise sitmo ko pyaar likhun?

Talk with a Lonely Night

Silent Night came to my door,
Softly said that life means more,
I agree with you my dear I said,
But sorrows surround me each day on bed.

Life has plenty of roads stored in you see,
It takes years to give shade for a tree.
I have been struggling for a long time I complained,
Every minute has passed with mind strained.

Love, care, support and peace you need I know,
Almighty will give you all at one fixed go.
I’ll be waiting for the day, Oh!! Sweet Light
I’ll be waiting for the star that’ll sparkle bright.

You have brought pearls down on earth,
Then why do you break on chicken’s birth.
These pearls need to be polished,
Unfinished buildings often get demolished.

When you have decided to twinkle like a star,
Then why don’t you live as if playing guitar.
Live life like music in very hour,
Live life like dazzling wine at a bar

This was a conversation between me and night
That silent soul showed me the path of light.
Trees swinging that night ended my fright,
Now, life seems to be delicious cheese pasta in every bite……


(Dedicated to my beloved Papa)

Things Women Want Husbands To Remember

It is true that “Woman listens 50%, understands 20% but speaks 200%”. Though being a woman myself is not a very good idea to agree to something like this still truth cannot be denied. Now, when it comes to men, I feel at times and I am sure many of you will agree that they hardly listen to anything but still understand it all. Well, the fact is they don’t understand but pretend to understand it all. This is the most pissing off nature they possess. Consequently, they do not remember anything on this earth except, the lingerie the slim girl wears on that TV commercial or the last time his wife said “I am in a dirty mood today :P...so should we....”

Here are a few things which can help married men on earth to manage their married life. Remember, your lady doesn’t want much in life. Trivial things matter for her may be merely, you calling her ‘girl’ even if she is 35 can turn her on.....

Commitment

Did you promise her a dinner on this weekend? Or did you promise her you would accompany her to her favourite uncle’s place? Remember, these things may not be important for you but are really close to her heart. She already made plans on Monday for Friday evening regarding what she will wear, which hair clip she will wear and which clutch she will carry. So, if she comes to know that you don’t remember anything on Thursday, be prepared for her bonkers look and dare not say “This is called Shaadi (marriage).”

Food and Beverages

Remember the last time you went to eat out and she told you that she loved Pineapple raita with Butter Naan and Chicken. The reason for telling was not that you should also start loving it. It was told so that next time when you are out, you should order it for her. For a woman, these small things matter a lot as they show her how much you care and respect her taste. Believe me, that a time will come when you yourself will not be able to have Butter Naan and Chicken without Pineapple raita and things will become easy for you and lovable for her.

The best thing in woman is that even if you do something for her repeatedly, she falls in love with you repeatedly, On the contrary, for you guys, it may become a developed ‘habit or duty’. So, remember to order Virgin Mojito if she loves it with KFC’s luscious chicken.

Appraisal

There may be a norm of yearly or half yearly appraisals in your office, however, your wife needs it monthly. Do not forget to do that on one of those Saturday nights. The venue is your bedroom with mute TV which may help her if she is pointed out for something negative. Remember, that shouting on her may not be the only solution. Appraisal with her means you would start with all good things she has done for your family. It is her duty to satisfy your parents and keep them happy but still she wants to be appreciated right from the beginning, the day she came in her dad’s hands. So, she is a princess in her own way and thus working at home may not be her cup of tea always (especially if she is working).

Thereafter, once she becomes happy with the good stuff, telling negatives in a sandwiched manner may help her accept your blames in a positive way.

There may be a lot more. But let me know if you like the post so that we can discuss more. However, I feel for you guys too. So, soon the post will be about “Things men want from their Wives :P, though not much.

Is this is Something that we Call ‘Shaadi’?

I remember the last time he said “This is what they call ‘Marriage’”.

He often says that he wonders why people in Indian society consider marriage as a liability and burden where we both have united to share the happiness and sorrows. At the same time he defends the idea of wedding being a curse in life as the freedom of man gets lost in fulfilling his responsibilities.

Last time when he believed that his friends were right was when I merely asked him to stay on with me as it was Saturday and I wanted his presence after a daylong journey to oblige someone from his family only.

I am broken, I am lost, I am mutilated when I hear these words “My friends are right. This is what we call ‘Shaadi’ or rather they call. This is not what I came into his life for. My problem is that I want him to be with me. That is it.

Well, its not that he doesn’t give me attention. It is not that he does not spend time with me. It is only that in that new world (which is now 2 years old), there is no one who can give the calmness to my soul and this is the reason I yearn for his presence every now and then. May be because I cannot move out, hang around or have a pint of beer standing on the streets with my friends and smoke away the grudges of my life and all these Indian relationships I keep on worrying for.

And thereafter he returns with same stunning smile and an expression of apology on his face when I have also been thinking for 4 hours “This is what they call ‘Marriage’”.

The week starts with bafflement of satisfying my inner self till the next weekend and the same old story begins again. I want pleasure, I want him, I want something that he does not know or may be I also do not know.

The only thing I want is "To Be With Him" and believe “this is Something that we Call ‘Shaadi’”........